I have had some thoughts really heavy on my heart lately that I wanted to share with you. My thoughts are all about how we treat our husbands. I know I have written a little about this in the past, but it is such an important topic that I don’t think we can hear too much about.
In the title when I say, “So you love your husband…” What I mean by that is, if you truly love your husband then speak, act and think in love…not telling you to be a perfect wife because there is no such thing, but I think there are some things women out there that I have come across lately could do a little differently to show that they truly love their husbands.
Lately I have been hearing some horrible things that have really struck me hard. Horrible things coming from the mouths of people standing in the grocery line behind me in the store and shockingly even from the mouths of people I know. Here are some exact things I have heard or read,
1. A comic re-pinned on Pinterest and showed up in my news feed:
– The dad says while looking into the baby crib, “He is finally asleep, i’ll just give him a little goodnight smooch.”
– Mom standing behind him says, “If you wake him up, i’ll rip your face off.”
My thought on this ladies is this. Yikes!!! I hope to God that people don’t actually say something like that to their husbands and the father of their children. Now I have had my share of frustration toward my husband for waking a sleeping baby, but I have come to a conclusion. They only reason why he wants to give them a kiss while they are sleeping is because he loves them THAT much and can’t just wait for kisses in the morning. In my situation I have to remember that my husband doesn’t get to see our daughter as much as I do because he works during the day. Putting myself in his shoes, I cannot blame him! So please ladies, PLEASE don’t say such things to your husbands!
2. Standing behind me in the line at Meijer a woman says to her DAUGHTER after hanging up the phone with what was clearly a bad conversation with her husband:
– “Your dad is really pissing me off!”
My thought on this: Well, she could have said so much more than that, but there are still several problems with this statement…First it is said to her daughter who she is supposed to be shaping to become a wife someday and is hopefully shaping her to be a respectful woman. Now given, I don’t know if there was a divorce involved in this situation, but honestly, that doesn’t matter! Teach your children to respect their father because it could effect the way they are in a marriage someday.
3. “I really want to do it so I say SCREW HIM. I’m doing it if I want to!”
AHHHH! This statement has not left my mind since I first heard it and then the second time I heard it and then the third time I heard it. Screw him?? No ladies!!! Respect him! This is a situation where the husband doesn’t want his wife to do something specific and she needs to be SUBMISSIVE and RESPECTFUL to his decision and not just say “screw him” behind his back! This statement scares me more than most statements I have heard because THIS has many many core issues behind it but the biggest of all is an issue of respect! If you have said this before I pray to God you don’t ever again. I can speak for myself and say it is such a gut wrenching thing to hear someone say about someone they LOVE!!!
4. MARRIED Women I KNOW re-pinning pins on Pinterest of celebrity men with their shirts off!
WHY LADIES??? If you don’t agree with your husband looking at porn then don’t be a hypocrite by having a whole board on Pinterest dedicated to “Yummy Celebrities”!! It is so so so wrong and so so so disrespectful!! I am beyond embarrassed for you when I see those things that you post PUBLICLY!!! Why are men so ashamed of porn and sneak around to do it without their wives knowing, but we think it’s okay to post it publicly for everyone in the world to see that you think THAT guys is “yummy” or “sexy” with his shirt off??? Well here is a statement for you my friends: YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD BE THE ONLY SEXY MAN TO YOU! I am by far not a perfect wife, but I can tell you right here right now that no other man has caught my eye, not even Ryan Gosling with his shirt off, ever since I married my husband! Looking at a man in that way, ladies, is causing you to fall, causing you to fall into an affair in your mind! If you can’t help yourself from those images then get off Pinterest!!
5. Finally, don’t talk to other people like your husband is the dumbest thing that walked on this earth.
I have heard lots of people talk directly to me or in a conversation I have overheard where they are talking so low about their husbands. Talking like they are dirt under their feet. It is so sad to hear things like that, so I encourage you, if you really truly love your husband, speak about him in love. Why wouldn’t we if we love him so much right?
Okay, so I could seriously go on and on…pages and pages of my thoughts on this and examples on this topic, but I think I have given enough examples.
Let me just say one more time I am by far not a perfect wife. I don’t always respect my husband. But some of these examples are something I can promise you I could never ever bring myself to do or say. I love my husband more than words could even express. I can’t help but share the verse that really says it all,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Ladies!! LOVE your husband!! LOVE the father of your children!! RESPECT your husband!! Be SUBMISSIVE to your husband!! HONOR your husband!!
I dare you to do something…be aware of what you say to your husband. Think before you speak about him or directly to him. Take your thoughts captive and don’t speak those evil thoughts that the Devil wants you to express so badly!
Thank your husband for all that he does and seek his forgiveness on any disrespect you have had towards him that you have chosen to deny. Most of all tell him you love him so so much and ask him to pray for you in this area if this is something you struggle with. There is nothing more beautiful than a husband and wife that pray for each other.
Finally, don’t forget to remind him that you think he is the sexiest man alive. 🙂
Thanks for taking the time to read my thoughts today. I’m sure it came across more like a rant on the topic, which it kinda was. But it is so important and I hope you took something from it!
Here is a picture of my wonderful husband and I! I just love this guy so much I had to share a photo of us with all of you!
Have a wonderful week and a great Christmas!!
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.” Ephesians 5:22-24